Midwife and mother @turtillachip says the Scottish Government’s rush for inclusion belittles one of humanity’s important roles
I write this while sitting in utter dismay and deep in thought at the newest step from our Scottish Government.
They have decided to erase the word mother to make it more inclusive for parents who do not wish to be called mother.
To call mothers people.
I can honestly say that, throughout this campaign on the erasure of women, this has to be one of the saddest, most utterly depressing decisions that Nicola Sturgeon and her government have come up with so far.
Every single person on earth was born of a mother
We all have a mother, every single person on this earth. Some may not know their mother, some may not be close to their mothers, but everyone, without exception, came from the body of a mother.
In my 22 years as a midwife, I have watched and supported women moving from life without children to becoming mothers.
It can be a joyous and tragic experience in equal measures. I’ve witnessed the blood, sweat and tears of harrowing labours and equally harrowing deliveries. What these women go through deserves nothing less than the accolade of being called mother.
Do not diminish women’s experiences
I’ve supported women who have had miscarriage after miscarriage and who finally get their much-longed-for child and are overwhelmed they can finally call themselves a mother.
I’ve held the hand of women in labour knowing their child would be born asleep. They are just as much that baby’s mother as the woman who is delivering her second, third or fourth child.
To diminish these women’s experiences by calling them anything other than mother is not only heartbreaking but morally wrong.
It is a privilege to be a mother, and celebrating that does not diminish anyone else’s experience. We can always be inclusive without erasing language that honours someone else’s experience.
Erasing reality is not inclusive
The Scottish Government does not have the right to take our words, our language, to make a sweeping decision that belittles one of the most important roles in humanity.
It is not inclusive to erase reality. It is a tragedy.